Change in Direction

How many times have you come to a point in your life where you have been faced with making a decision, which may or may not be an easy one to make?

We can see those times as a fork in our life’s journey.

1 such fork in my life was when I met my husband online. We were 400 miles apart, and although we had decided that we were life-long partners, from a very early stage, we thought that we would have a long distint relationship for many years whilst my daughter finished her secondary education. But the cutlery of fate had other ideas, and within 6 months of meeting him, my landlady gave me notice to move out of the home that we had lived in for 8 years, as she had decided to sell.

Within a year my life had taken a very different pathway to the one I had been living.

How has your life taken a swerve in another direction to the 1 that you thought you had planned?

Very shortly my blog will also be taking a change in direction. I am going to be spending the next 2 weeks working on a stategy to alter the focus of my blog, to a her-story. Tales of the adoptee, from womb to present time. I hope you will join me as I share my experiences of life.

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Countless Times

How many times did my Mother use the phrase “I’ve told you countless times”……….? Followed by “Go tidy your room” “Put your clothes away” “Do the washing up” dah di dah di dah!

Well of course, there was a finite number of times that she had asked me to do those chores or others, very little is infinite. the fact that she wasn’t counting doesn’t mean that the requests were countLESS.  So countless is a word that should be sent to room 101.

Do you have a word that you feel should be made redundant? I would love to hear it.

Here’s a phrase which I heard frequently from my Mother too. Be Happy/Grateful for what you have. However I love the extra phrase here. What do you think?

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Blessings Joy

Take a Grain of Sand and put it in a Mollusc

How many people are there in your life who irritate you? Well did you know it takes just 1 grain of sand to make a pearl?

The grain of sand gets in the shell of a mollusc, usually a clam and irritates it. As a defence the mollusc produces a substance which, when hard, produces the pearl. Layer upon layer of iradescent substance called nacre. So when someone is making you feel irritable just remember this, they are but a grain of sand sent into your life, to  make you into a precious pearl.

Blessings Joy

It’s Just a Phase I Am Going Through

It’s lasted 55 years and I hope it is coming to an end, because everything is a phase isn’t it? And we get over all phases don’t we?

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I have just come to the end of my patience with this one though, I refuse to continue to be in this “Phase” a moment longer. It is now time to move out of this one and into the next phase of my life.

In the next phase I will be Mistress of my own Castle. I feel a transformation and migration from this blog to one where I will reveal more. I need a title for it though. I have come up with a few:

The Cuckoos Call

Joy’s Jottings

Jottings by Joy

A Cuckoo is Calling

Joy’s Cuckoo

Which one is your favourite?

Wish I knew how to do polls on blogs, guess there is a plug-in?

Blessings Joy



Interpreting Dreams

Many years ago, when I was still a Nurse, I had a very vivid dream which I remember to this day.

I was in an old fashioned galleon ship, think King Henry VIII’s Mary Rose. I was in a compartment on the ship which was air and  watertight, and I knew the ship was sinking. I knew that I was going to die, but I also knew that it was a dream so that I was safe to choose.

My choice was either to remain in the airtight compartment and suffocate, or open the door, let the water in, and drown.

In real life I was thinking of going for a promotion, and went for several interviews at some distance to where I lived.They would all have involved a move of house. I felt that I had come to a stalemate in my work environment, I had little respect for my immediate boss, and guess that I felt that I could do a better job than she did.


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Keep On Dreaming

Several weeks after having the dream, after I had turned down a job promotion 200 miles away, I was talking to a friend about it. He asked me about the joboffer, and I told him that I had decided not to move away.

What had I done in my dream? I had decided to stay where I was and suffocate.

Blessings Joy

PS In case you are wondering, not long after this I started on my complementary therapy journey.

Holiday Saga

My husband and I met 10 years ago, online, that was in 2006. That year he took his mother and 2 children on holiday. So the holiday saga begins.

In 2007 he took his Mother and 2 children on holiday. I moved 400 miles to be with him, but bought my own property 1 mile down the road and moved with my 11 year old daughter.

In 2008 he took his Mother and 2 children on holiday.

In 2009 he took me and my daughter on holiday.

In 2010 we got married, and had a 4 day honeymoon.

In 2011 we took his Mother on holiday

In 2012 we took his Mother on holiday

In 2013 we planned to take his Mother on holiday, but she broke her leg just days before we were due to go. His children came on holiday with us, as they were going to stay with thier gran whilst my husband and I went away for a few days.

In 2013 I went on holiday with my husband and step-children both aged 20 something. Hubby and I did manage a few days away, pictures shown here.

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In 2014 my husband and I went on our first holiday, just the 2 of us, in 7 years of knowing him.

In 2015 we had our second holiday on our own.

In 2015 we took his Mother on holiday.

In 2016 we are taking his Mother on holiday.

Does anybody else have this saga, of their husband having had more holidays with his Mother than his wife in the past 10 years, just wondering? Appreciate your thoughts on this.

Blessings Joy