What Marriage is All About

I went out for a coffee with a friend today. Over the course of the conversation, I just happened to mention that I was going to be climbing Kilimanjaro in the future, like 18 months into the future, and that as part of my training I had joined a hill-walking group. My friend asked me if my husband was going to be doing it with me? She was a little surprised when I said NO!

It then dawned on me that I was expecing my darling husband to make a huge compromise, to allow me to do what I was planning to do. Marriage is all about making compromises, big and small, and it probably doesn’t get much bigger than this. Saying goodbye to your wife as she sets off to go to deepest darkest Africa, to climb a mountain, not knowing if she is fit and able to achieve it, to not be there by her side as she achieves it, as no doubt I will.

When I first moved 400 miles to be with him, leaving behind my life as I knew it, I thought I was making all the compromises, and he was making very few, if any, after all, his life was going on as usual, same house, same friends, same golf club, same GP. It was me that was up-rooting my daughter and having to find all those new things to replace the old life I was leaving behind. Now I am beginning ot understand that he is compromising too. In different ways.DSC_0183

Act Now

How many periods in time do you think you have any influence over?

The answer is 1, NOW, the present.

If you like where you are now, if you like what you are doing, that’s great, you are likley to be a happy contented individual. However if the reverse is true, you are not happy where you are, nor what you are doing, then you can take action NOW, in the present.

We have no idea what will happen in the future, we can make plans for it, and we should, because otherwise life happens TO us, we are not in control of what happens, but ultimately the future, can go against our plans. Have you ever made a plan, only for it to be affected by the weather, or by someone else pulling out, or not doing what you thought they would? I certainly have.

Equally, you cannot change the past. You can change how you feel about it, you can chose to let go of the bad feelings that remind you of how you felt about incidents that happened to you in the past, but you cannot change the events of the past.

So what are you doing now, in the present that you don’t like? Do you like your job? Do you surround yourself with people that you would rather not have around you?

I set you a challenge to change it now, today, this very moment in the present, take a step, and let me know where it takes you on your journey. Follow me and see where my steps take me.


JoyEvery Journey Single Step

April’s A to Z Challenge

Blogging from A to Z April Challenge 2018 Pre-Challenge Blogging from A to Z Survey #AtoZchallenge Posted: 15 Feb 2018 01:36 PM PST Jayden, our new co-host, has crafted this poll to help our 2018 challenge be a huge success. It can’t happen without you. Please take a minute to fill this out. (It doesn’t matter if you’ve […]

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Bewitched v Bewildered

The nice thing about the daily prompt, is the quick association that I have to songs, songs that I have no idea what 99% of the lyrics are. Bewitched, Bothered and Bewildered is just 1 example.

After 1 whole quart of brandy I can think of other words that would describe how I would be feeling; How about Sick Spinning and Puking? Unconscious, Out Cold and Desperate?

What 3 words would you use to describe how you would feel after drinking a whole quart of brandy?


Enrolling for a Dream

I chose to sign up for the Kilimanjaro trek purely for the sense of achievement I am expecting when I reach the top. If this morning’s Nordic walk was anything to go by, then training is paramount. The wind was howling off the sea, so much so, that it was hard to breathe, let alone talk, as we strode along battling with the wind. My companion asked if I wanted to turn round and go back, but the thought of turning back, halfway up Kili, is not an option, so I kept plodding on, reminding myself how I got through the 10 run last September……I paced myself. Funnily enough a post came up on facebook the other day for another 10k run, in August this year. I must enrol, and get back to running again.

Every Journey Single Step


8 Mile Walk, 2 hours of Silence

No words today, just pictures from an 8 mile walk right outside my backdoor. Home to all creatures great and small. Silence is Golden Let me be your Tour Guide

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Namaste Joy

Tits and Teeth

The weather is slowly becoming Springlike, the crocus’ and snowdrops are beginning to peep through the damp earth, bringing colour to what has otherwise been  muddy brown walks, since I started my training for Kilimanjaro. I am happy with my progress, gradually building up the length of my tri-weekly walks, from 3 miles to 5-6 miles.

I have lived in this area of the world for just short of 11 years now, and I have not really appreciated the beauty that I have on my back doorstep. Without having to jump in a car, I can walk out of my front door and walk through a park with lots of trees, across golf courses, down the banks of rivers and along beaches, with views of the Isle of Arran, which sits just a few miles of the coast of South West Scotland. We are truly blessed in this part of the world.

Now happy as I was with my walking progress, I knew that I needed to do something about my cardio-vascualr fitness levels. I hate gyms with their treadmills, rowing machines and static bikes, and I get bored with exercise classes, so I am extremely happy to have discovered Nordic Walking. Today I went for a taster session, with a lovely lady, Karen, (who incidentally calls me a Miracle Worker, but that’s another blog) who took us through our paces, getting us to swing arms in harmony with our feet, whilst holding poles. The order is to bring your shoulders back and smile as you go, or  “tits and teeth”. We were so blessed with the weather today too, which came as a surprise, as the forecast was for rain and wind! It was glorious, the sun was shining and the wind had blown off somewhere else, to blow sand in somebody else’s face. Which is just as well as sand in your teeth is never a good taste!

1st Nordic walk on Ayr beach

Judging by this photo, thank you Gail, I have a little way to go, to get my head up, shoulders back and smile. Maybe I will do a better job on Tuesday, when I am signed up to go again.