What Marriage is All About

I went out for a coffee with a friend today. Over the course of the conversation, I just happened to mention that I was going to be climbing Kilimanjaro in the future, like 18 months into the future, and that as part of my training I had joined a hill-walking group. My friend asked me if my husband was going to be doing it with me? She was a little surprised when I said NO!

It then dawned on me that I was expecing my darling husband to make a huge compromise, to allow me to do what I was planning to do. Marriage is all about making compromises, big and small, and it probably doesn’t get much bigger than this. Saying goodbye to your wife as she sets off to go to deepest darkest Africa, to climb a mountain, not knowing if she is fit and able to achieve it, to not be there by her side as she achieves it, as no doubt I will.

When I first moved 400 miles to be with him, leaving behind my life as I knew it, I thought I was making all the compromises, and he was making very few, if any, after all, his life was going on as usual, same house, same friends, same golf club, same GP. It was me that was up-rooting my daughter and having to find all those new things to replace the old life I was leaving behind. Now I am beginning ot understand that he is compromising too. In different ways.DSC_0183


Act Now

How many periods in time do you think you have any influence over?

The answer is 1, NOW, the present.

If you like where you are now, if you like what you are doing, that’s great, you are likley to be a happy contented individual. However if the reverse is true, you are not happy where you are, nor what you are doing, then you can take action NOW, in the present.

We have no idea what will happen in the future, we can make plans for it, and we should, because otherwise life happens TO us, we are not in control of what happens, but ultimately the future, can go against our plans. Have you ever made a plan, only for it to be affected by the weather, or by someone else pulling out, or not doing what you thought they would? I certainly have.

Equally, you cannot change the past. You can change how you feel about it, you can chose to let go of the bad feelings that remind you of how you felt about incidents that happened to you in the past, but you cannot change the events of the past.

So what are you doing now, in the present that you don’t like? Do you like your job? Do you surround yourself with people that you would rather not have around you?

I set you a challenge to change it now, today, this very moment in the present, take a step, and let me know where it takes you on your journey. Follow me and see where my steps take me.


JoyEvery Journey Single Step

April’s A to Z Challenge

Blogging from A to Z April Challenge 2018 Pre-Challenge Blogging from A to Z Survey #AtoZchallenge Posted: 15 Feb 2018 01:36 PM PST Jayden, our new co-host, has crafted this poll to help our 2018 challenge be a huge success. It can’t happen without you. Please take a minute to fill this out. (It doesn’t matter if you’ve […]

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Bewitched v Bewildered

The nice thing about the daily prompt, is the quick association that I have to songs, songs that I have no idea what 99% of the lyrics are. Bewitched, Bothered and Bewildered is just 1 example.

After 1 whole quart of brandy I can think of other words that would describe how I would be feeling; How about Sick Spinning and Puking? Unconscious, Out Cold and Desperate?

What 3 words would you use to describe how you would feel after drinking a whole quart of brandy?



Enrolling for a Dream

I chose to sign up for the Kilimanjaro trek purely for the sense of achievement I am expecting when I reach the top. If this morning’s Nordic walk was anything to go by, then training is paramount. The wind was howling off the sea, so much so, that it was hard to breathe, let alone talk, as we strode along battling with the wind. My companion asked if I wanted to turn round and go back, but the thought of turning back, halfway up Kili, is not an option, so I kept plodding on, reminding myself how I got through the 10 run last September……I paced myself. Funnily enough a post came up on facebook the other day for another 10k run, in August this year. I must enrol, and get back to running again.

Every Journey Single Step



Beloved Boots


I am trusting these boots to take me comfortably up Kilimanjaro in 2019. They are not yet my beloved, that honour goes to my very 1st pair of walking boots, that unfortunately passed away last year. I hope this marriage is equally as happy.


8 Mile Walk, 2 hours of Silence

No words today, just pictures from an 8 mile walk right outside my backdoor. Home to all creatures great and small. Silence is Golden Let me be your Tour Guide

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Namaste Joy